To start this month’s theme of Attachment, Andrea and Emily, two first year English students, wrote each other friendship letters. They took the idea of attachment and moulded it to their reality – a strong bond after only a few short months. Enjoy!
My Letter to You
Coming to school this year I was so worried that I wouldn’t make any friends. Or, even worse, I would make friends but the connections would not be as strong as I am used to. You see, I don’t really do well with attachment and I was scared that it was going to be impossible to meet people who pushed past those fears. The second that I met you during orientation week these fears went away for me. You were immediately one of the sweetest, most genuine people that I have ever met. I spent a lot of that day hoping that you felt the same way, that you felt an instant attachment to me in the same way that I did with you. I know now, months later, that you did feel the same and I am so grateful for that.
I see a lot of myself in you, be it our similar interests or same love for the people around us, but I also see a lot of the person I want to become. I see your easy temper, your quiet strength, and your ability to always be selfless no matter what. I hope that throughout our friendship I can pick up these qualities and become even half the person that you are. Our bond is so strong, it is one that I will cherish forever. I feel instantly comfortable whenever I am around you. From sweaty gym workouts to two in the morning, intoxicated sleepovers. There has never been a moment where I felt awkward or uncomfortable around you. Your presence welcomes and supports me always.
Thank you for being the other half of our wonderful friendship. Thank you for allowing me to voice attachment in such a personal way, though I am finding it difficult to explain how thankful I am for you and our friendship. Twenty years down the road, when we are both successfully living our best lives here in Toronto, we will look back on our early days of friendship and laugh about all the crazy things that we did. But it will all be in good heart because, throughout it all, we had each other.
I think people often fear attachment because of the instantaneous relation it has to being “clingy,” or so to speak. I used to fear attachment for this reason, because I didn’t want people to see me in that way. Through coming across the people I currently hold in my life I have realized that this is not true, and that being attached is a good thing. Attachment showcases the strengths in a relationship, and I have been able to explore this idea through my interactions with those dearest to me. You are one of those people.
When meeting you, I had gone into the situation knowing already that I intended to become friends with you. I worried that something would stand in the way of this, but as I write this now I cannot tell you how happy I am that nothing did. On that day you and I formed an instant bond as we shared our commonalities, and you made me feel more welcome than ever before. As we went about the activities of the day together, I knew that there was a growing attachment between the two of us, one that I was not afraid of in the slightest. It was then that I made a new friend in a place of which I thought the opposite would happen. Today, I can say that not only is that friend still with me, but she has grown into a sister and I could not be more thankful.
Each and every day our attachment grows for the better, to the point where my day begins to feel strange as a result of me not having seen you for a little while. You inspire me every day to be the best version of myself because you are who I aspire to be. We have only known each other for a short while but it feels like a lifetime, and I am excited to continue to grow the bond between us as we go into the future together. Thank you for being the best friend I could have asked for and more, I hope I have been the same to you.